Top Ten Tips For Getting Your Ex Back!

1  Cut Off All Contact!

Yeah I know what you are thinking, how can I get my ex back if I can’t talk to them? Ironically talking to your ex right now is only forcing them farther away. Have you thought that perhaps they may just need some space to work out what it is they want? Why not try leaving your ex alone for a couple of months and let them miss you! By trying to stay in contact with your ex all you are doing is showing them that you don’t have a life. Stay away and then perhaps your ex will start to wonder about you!

2 Sort Yourself Out First!

The most important person in your life right now is you! Now is the time to get your emotions under control and your life in order, then you can think about approaching your ex. Take some time for yourself and plan what your next step will be. Relax and enjoy your life on your own for a while, look upon this period of your life as a time to improve yourself and learn new skills. Your ex will still be there in a couple of months so use this time for you!

3 Get Your Confidence Back!

The No 1 attraction factor between the sexes is confidence! Ironically the first thing you lose when your relationship ends is your confidence! Work on getting your confidence back and then try getting your ex back. A great way to rebuild your shattered confidence is to take yourself out of your comfort zone. Get out of the rut your life is in now and take up some new hobbies but make sure they are challenging ones. Anything that takes courage to do will build your confidence up. Take a skydiving course or a public speaking course, as you can see it does not matter what you do as long as it expands your boundaries. Imagine how your ex will react to you the next time you meet if instead of begging for another chance you have the confidence to show your ex that with them or without them you will be happy! Believe me when I say that kind of attraction is irresistible!

4 Stop Playing The Blame Game!

It’s easy to blame yourself or your ex for what has happened but it will not help you in any way. The past is the past and it cannot be changed. Let it go, forgive yourself and forgive your ex, then you can work on starting a new relationship with your ex. Pinning blame on you or your ex will only serve to keep you in one place in your life. If you were at fault then accept it and learn a lesson from it. If it was your ex then take a close look at your relationship with that person and work out why it happened. Remember it is your life and ultimately you take responsibility for whatever happens in it. It is a harsh lesson to learn but ironically one that when learned makes life a lot easier. No longer will you be blaming others for what happens to you. From now on you take control of your life!

5 Get Back In Shape!

One of the main reasons that relationships break up is because one of the people in that relationship has let themselves go. So if you have put on a little weight or are unfit then join a gym or take up a sport. If you smoke then give it up, getting yourself fit will give you that much needed burst of confidence and a healthy glow! If you, like me are a little too old for running around a gym in a pair of shorts then take up walking instead. It’s a great way to get fit, lose weight and make new friends! Show your ex that life goes on without them!  A fit body is an attractive body!

6 Make A New Life!

Sitting around and moping over what has happened will not help you in any way! Now is the time to contact old friends and make new ones. Yes it will be hard but making a new social life for yourself will make you feel more confident which will in turn make you more attractive to the opposite sex. You may not feel like making new friends right now or even talking to old friends but making a new life for yourself will show your ex that you are capable of living your life to the full without them! How do you think your ex will feel when you are no longer the needy person you once were but are instead having a great life!

7 Stop Telling Your Story!

The only person who cares about what happened in your old relationship is you so stop telling everybody else about it! If you need to talk to somebody or need somebody to listen while you sound off then talk to a professional marriage or relationship counsellor! They at least are trained to listen and give advice and you may learn some things about yourself that will help you to get back with your ex. Talking to your friends will only end up in them supporting you, after all they are your friends! Talk with somebody new for as long as you need and then let it go! Treat this as an opportunity to find out about yourself and how you can improve!

8  Work Out What Went Wrong!

Looking at your old relationship and working out what went wrong with it is so important if you want to have a new relationship with your old partner or even with somebody new. Do not spend your life making the same mistakes over and over. Instead take some quiet time for yourself and go over in your mind what happened to bring about an end to your relationship. This is where you need a counsellor to help you.  Remember Tip No 4 though! Do this without blaming either yourself or your ex and learn the lessons so you don’t make the same mistakes again!

9  Get Back Into The Dating Game!

This is the last thing you want to do right now I know! Going out with someone else would feel like a betrayal of your ex! But I have news for you, you and your ex are no longer an item so both of you are free to date whoever you choose! It breaks your heart to think of your ex with somebody else but there is nothing right now that you can do about it so get out there and mingle!  Going out on dates will build your confidence, let you have fun and show your ex that you are not going to sit around waiting for them! And you never know, you may meet somebody even better!

10 Become Your Own Person!

So many relationships fail because one partner becomes totally dependent on the other and ultimately stifles the relationship! Learning to cope with life’s ups and downs on your own will make you stronger. A stronger and more confident you will automatically be more attractive to the opposite sex so show your ex that you are your own person and do not need him or her to be able to survive!

So there you have it! Ten Top Tips For Getting Your Ex Back! Follow my advice and you may well find your ex chasing you!